Enjoying the Journey

“I will get married in a few months.  What advice do you have for me?”  Working with hundreds of college students these are words I have heard many times.  As I heard them again recently my mind filled with so many truths that others have passed on to me and my wife.  Too many to remember.  Too many to relay in one conversation.  But there was one… One truth that seemed to rise above all of the rest.  One lesson that I have had to learn over and over again: families must pray together. Isn’t it funny that we seem to do everything – eat, sleep, play, drive, talk – together.  Everything, except pray.  Yet this is the one thing…

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Marriage is fun.  But not all the time.  Newlyweds rarely think of this when they say, “for better or for worse.” Every young couple need this understanding and preferably before they get married!  Pastor Sexton has taught our young families that marriage is much more than the wedding.  And so it is. Troubles come.  Difficulties arise.  Arguments (“discussions!”) happen.  The question is: how do we respond on tough days? I have the privilege of teaching a class each Sunday of young married couples.  It is such a joy to invest in the lives of couples what others have invested in us.  We are all working through the tests of life and growing in our understanding of the Lord’s way for…

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God’s design is for families to serve Christ together in a New Testament church.  As we find our place in the Lord’s work, every member of the family is blessed and the local church is strengthened.  Aquila and Priscilla demonstrate what a married couple should be in a New Testament church.  We are first introduced to this family during Paul’s ministry in Corinth (Acts 18:1-3).  It is clear that Aquila was not a pastor.  Tentmakers by trade, this husband and wife lived for Christ in one of the most worldly cities of the Roman empire.  As they were faithful to the Lord Jesus, God gave them the opportunity to be a blessing to others. God used this couple to encourage…

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My wife and I just returned from our annual couples’ retreat. We had the joy of spending some extra time with my favorite couple: my dad and mom. Their example has been wonderful instruction. One of the great joys of my life has been to see my father and mother serve the Lord together. There are few gifts parents can give their children that are as great in value as the example of joyfully serving Christ as a couple. My pastor and his wife recently celebrated their 46th wedding anniversary. Their marriage testifies to the power of following the biblical pattern for a husband and wife – giving ourselves first to God and then to one another. In relation to…

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Marriage is a joy, but it takes work to have a truly Christian home.  The “oneness” which Jesus intended between a husband and wife must be guarded every day.  I am very grateful that Tammy and I had the privilege of growing up in godly homes.  Both of our parents modeled Calvary love.  We were blessed to have good examples. Fifteen years ago we were married. (Friday the 13th of June to be exact!  Not just bad things happen on that day.)  Watching a good marriage and working to have a good marriage are two different things.  Very quickly we learned that it would take both of us yielding to Christ and submitting to one another’s needs to have a…

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